Sometimes it seems like everything is against our marriages. Movies portraying affairs, establishments built upon temptation as you drive down the street, plenty of naked bodies to be found on the internet, etc. It’s hard to be a faithful partner and guard our marriage at times!
Hard. Not impossible.
Lovely, you are a big part of your marriage. Half, to be exact 😉 You have a lot of power to guard your marriage, and you don’t have to do it alone. I’ve come up with 5 ways that you can use to guard your marriage and keep strong together! Marriage and that special bond that we have with our lover are gifts from God…let’s do everything that we can to keep them sacred and protected!
Proudly wear your ring
You are DEFINITELY not a bad person if you don’t do this, but take a second to think about whether or not it’s important to your spouse. If it is important to either of you, you both need to be making it a priority. My ring is my way to stay accountable to my marriage. You wear a fitbit for your fitness goals, set an alarm to get you to work on time, etc. This is no different! I proudly wear my ring because I know that it’s important to my twinny, but also because I want others to know that I’m proud to be married to my husband. This may be different in your marriage, but I encourage you to have the conversation and find something that works for you.
Never Speak Badly of your spouse
This one can be a little tricky! Most of us don’t jump at the chance to put our spouse down or obviously talk bad about them, but what about the stories that you tell to your friends? A seemingly harmless story about something funny that your husband did might upset him or embarrass him. For example, if I told my friends about a time when Alex had trouble opening the pickle jar, that might make him feel silly for not being strong enough. A funny story can sometimes be hurtful and would be better kept in the home. This doesn’t mean that you can never tell a story again, though! Just think before you speak on this one. 😉
stay away from tempting situations
“And you shall not bring an abominable thing into your house and become utterly devoted to destruction like it. You shall utterly detest and abhor it, for it is devoted to destruction.” -Deuteronomy 7:26
Does this verse sound familiar to you? Yeah, me too! First, I’ll be swearing off chocolate…but then I go to dinner, I’m surrounded by ice cream, and I cave. The example I gave is funny, but the same can be true for our marriages. If you don’t place yourself in tempting situations, you can’t be tempted by them. Alex and I are firm believers in setting ground rules in our marriage. They can be different for everyone, but doing so makes it easier for us to avoid the temptation altogether. Even if you don’t have actual rules set in place, it’s as simple as just asking yourself a few questions if you’re unsure. “How do I feel about this? How would my husband feel about me doing it?” It’s not about control, but it is about respect for our spouse and God.
Take interest in your spouse’s interests
Don’t be a bulldozer! LOL. It’s really that simple, though. Remember to take the time to stop and ask about your spouse’s work, hobbies, thoughts, feelings, etc. When we show that we care about the things that are important to our husbands, it makes them feel AMAZING! Alex and I have very different interests, so I often forget to ask about his latest project at work or the video game he’s been obsessed with lately. 😉 But when I do…oh boy, does he light up. Let’s take the time to make our spouses feel as special as they are!
Be someone that he can trust to be capable
Oh boy, this could be an entire post in itself (and it probable will be!). Be someone that your husband can trust to take care of things/situations. As women, we often are run by our emotions, and that can be draining for our husbands. When we call him for every little problem or cry 50 times a day, he then has to deal with all of his other responsibilities and feelings + ours. It can be really hard on him, and that leaves room for frustration and worldly temptations. If you struggle with this, lean on God to offer the helping hand and the peace to handle those emotions that can bubble over. I’m right there with you, girl. 😉
Let’s chat! What struggles do you have in this department? Have you come up with a creative way to overcome them? Let’s discuss and lift each other up!