Ever feel like you’re just stuck in a never-ending rut, and you just don’t know how to break the cycle? Been there, done that, girlfriend! I used to feel like I was stuck in a rut every other day, so you can trust that I’m an authority on this topic. 😉
A rut can be anything, really. You may not be hitting your goals as quickly as you want. You may be feeling super sad a lot of the time without motivation to pull yourself out of it. You may have gone through something that has you shaken up…it can be anything! These tips below should help you regardless of what the issue is, and even if you’ve tried one of them before, I’m sure that at least one will be helpful! I’ve found that following these tips in the order provided gives me the best results, but it’s all about what works for you!
Keep reading, beautiful friend. You’re not alone!
1. Do a Brain Dump
This is the tip to rule all other tips if I do say so myself 😉 (did you get that Lord of the Rings reference?? LOL good!) You need to free your brain of the maze of thoughts running around in there! I know that when I’m stressed, I can almost feel the pressure and weight of all the thoughts in my head! It’s no fun at all!
“So how the heck do you get it all out?” I’m glad you asked, my friend! It’s actually pretty simple! Sit down with a pen and paper, and write down everything that comes to mind. These things don’t necessarily have to be about what you’re struggling with, either. You’re just writing down everything that is weighing down your mind to get it all out in the open.
Don’t rush this step! Brain dumping is one of my favorite things to do because I always feel so much lighter after its all done, but it can take a bit of time if I am feeling particularly stressed. Make sure that you have a chunk of time and some peace and quiet to really focus on what you’re doing!
**Bonus tip! Don’t worry about the paper looking super organized. Just write things down in whatever order they come out of your brain and feel free to write them anywhere on the paper!**
Setting a length of time for evaluation sounds really official and scary, but it’s sooooo not. It’s simply a length of time that you set to really FEEL everything you’re feeling. During this time, you’re going to try to be super aware of what you feel, what thoughts go through your head, and what actions you take. You’re evaluating what might be causing or even helping what you’re going through. This will help you make changes later .
When I set these times to really think things out for whatever I am dealing with, I usually go with 3 or 7 days. Those just sound like solid numbers, am I right? 😉 One thing that I want to make sure that I mention…some ruts can be more serious than others. If you are really really struggling with some deep things, don’t be afraid to go speak to a professional about what it is that you’re going through! There are so many people out there that can help with your struggles, and sometimes it just helps to have someone assist you that actually does it for a living! These tips are great and all, but if you need to get more help than this article provides, don’t hesitate for a second to grab a professional!
3. Make note of how you feel
“Why the heck are we writing so much down??” “Can’t I just use my smartphone to do this??” There is a lot of science that backs up the fact that you retain more information when you put pen to paper. This is perfect for studying or making a plan…and you know I’m a big fan of plans! For our purposes here, I’ve found that writing things down really has a releasing feeling for me. When I’m evaluating the way that I’m feeling and putting it on paper, I instantly feel lighter. It’s also a great way for me to look back on all my notes and see them as a whole instead of bits and pieces.
This is the time to write down all that you feel and think during the evaluation time limit that you set earlier. You might want to make note of things like how many times you moved towards your goals and how you felt, how many times you thought about that thing stressing you out, what thoughts you had about yourself that day, etc. Remember, this system is all about what works for you! I’m not sure what is causing you to feel like you’re in a rut, but I do know that you can get out of it! The main part of making note of how you feel is to get your thoughts and actions down on paper, so it’s easier to see things all at once. Once you do that, it will be easier to decide how to best move forward!
By this point, you have brain dumped all your thoughts, evaluated what’s going on inside your head and heart, made notes about how you felt, and now it’s time to make a plan! Reflect on what you’ve noticed so far and read back over all the thoughts you wrote down.
What patterns do you notice?
What things stick out right away that might help make you feel better?
What things made you happy?
What things made you upset?
What stressed you out?
What do you want to change?
What goals do you want to set to help you get to a better place?
These questions above (and any others that you can think of) will help you move forward and make a plan to ignite your passions again! I know that this may seem like a big process or way too much work for you. Maybe you feel like you’re only in a tiny rut or that these tips don’t apply to you. That’s totally cool, girl! I encourage you to either give them a try or find something that works wonders for YOU! My main focus in my blog posts is to inspire you to take control of your mind and life, and help you live a more positive life! Whether you’re following this system, or trying something else, I’m just glad we got the conversation going! You CAN break out of your rut and take control of your life again, girl! I have faith in you!