An Open Letter to Myself About My Mistakes Pt. 2

Faith, Self Development
Have you ever made some mistakes and felt unworthy, out-of-control, or confused on what to do next? Click to read what I say to myself in these situations!

Dear Carisa (or anyone else that needs to read this),


So, you did it! You got your life on track (sort of) (for now), and things are going pretty well. You’re feeling confident about the direction things are moving, and you’re pretty much killing it at the “stay away from negative influences and bad situations” game.


There’s just one thing that’s not quite right.

But you’re not going to admit it to anyone.

And you would never condone a girlfriend doing it, but you spend a lot of time doing it.

But it’s okay ’cause it’s just a little thing. A no big deal kinda thing.


It’s actually kinda sorta really a big deal, sweetie. See, you’ve made strides towards fixing some of the mistakes you’ve made in the past. Big strides! Things are great! But when you’re alone, sometimes you spend an awful lot of time trying to put your chains back on. The chains Jesus died to free you from. The chains of sin and guilt and regret.


Related:  An Open Letter to Myself About My Mistakes Pt. 1


Sometimes you let the sad music play in the car or in the shower, and you just have a good ol’ time letting your emotions out. Which is fine…but afterwards, when you spend time feeling guilty about everything you’ve ever thought and done, that’s a problem. When you allow so many emotions to run rampant that you start to forget that you’re a treasured child of God, that’s kind of a big deal. When you let yourself feel so so so guilty that you forget how loved you are, that’s not okay.


Not only is it not healthy, but you’re also wasting your time on that guilt and regret. Read this next part as many times as you need to for it to sink in…


If you have a relationship with Jesus Christ as your Lord and savior, you are not powerful enough to put the chains back on that Jesus already removed from you. 

John 8:36 – “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.”


You can feel guilty all you want. You’re still forgiven. You can let regret seep in. You’re still saved. You can let your sadness and desire to turn back time take over. You’re still washed clean and made new.


You are worthy not because of what you have done or haven’t done, but because of what He did on the cross and who He is. No amount of self-loathing can change the fact that you are forgiven and your sins have been removed from you.


Please, lovely…the next time you want to have a pity party, just don’t. Have a praise party with the One who has extended grace time and time again. He calls you FORGIVEN.


Galatians 5:1 – “For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.”

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  • Reply
    Beth Hanlon
    April 3, 2017 at 9:35 am

    Great reminder, thanks for sharing!

    • Reply
      Carisa Alford
      April 10, 2017 at 4:02 pm

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment!

  • Reply
    Lori Dalton
    April 3, 2017 at 6:26 am

    Oh, sister! You are speaking to me with this one! I have wasted so much time doing just that! I am almost 50 and have know Christ most of my life but have failed so many times and have let guilt, shame, regret, and ‘what if’ have places in my life that our Father never intended nor condones. He sent His only begotten Son into this world to die a cruel horrible death so that He could do what man can not do…. Conquer thee grave! Break those chains of bondage! Set His people free just as He did in the first exodus! We all have our exodus. We have to decide, though, are we going to walk in that freedom and head for the land He had promised for us as an inheritance through Abraham or will we do as so many of the Hebrews at that time did and fear what lies ahead and desire to return to those bonds because it feels comfortable and we feel we will have more promises there such as good and shelter. We have a choice to make… Life or death. Life leads to joy and love forever. Death may seem more comfortable at this time but will lead to eternal death in the future. Jesus is the way to life and freedom. Keep remembering over and over again that God forgets our sin when we are forgiven. He doesn’t remember it. Why should we? We are by no means better that He! Let us follow God and do as He says. Obey our Father and completely forgive yourself and others and do not hold a grudge against either. I fail everyday but God is still God and Jesus is there to help me get up and move forward. He is there for each of us! Praise His Holy Name!

    • Reply
      Carisa Alford
      April 10, 2017 at 4:01 pm

      Your comment has been such an encouragement to me! I love that you said we have to DECIDE to walk in His freedom. SO true! Thank you so much, sister!

  • Reply
    March 27, 2017 at 3:16 pm

    Love it, girl! <3

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