Christmas Intimacy Challenge

Rekindle the intimacy in your marriage this Christmas season! Click through to get access to the Christmas Intimacy Challenge to make this the hottest December yet!

Last week, I put up a poll on Instagram asking what kind of post y’all wanted to see next. I had an overwhelming response for a post on rekindling intimacy in marriage. It’s not too surprising…I mean, we all could use a bit more of that!


I’ve written posts on this topic before (just search the words “intimacy” or “sex” here on the blog, and you’ll find quite a few), but this time around, it was pretty difficult to come up with any good content on this subject. I’ve realized that it’s difficult to write about because Alex and I are currently still in a period of figuring it all out after childbirth. We’re past the stage of things being painful or uncomfortable, but going such a long time during the end of the third trimester and right after birth without sex has put us in quite the habit of NOT being intimate as much as we should.


Basically, we could use some rekindling in our own intimate life.


What better time to work towards that than the busiest time of the year?! 😉 Ha! In all seriousness, this time of year can be one filled with so much stuff that we don’t spend as much time cherishing those close to us as we should. In an effort to get things moving in our bedroom and to hopefully give you some ideas on how to fan the spark in your own marriages, I’ve come up with the Christmas Intimacy Challenge! I will admit that we came up with a few more interesting names…Alex had the great idea for Getting Her Out of Her Stockings This Season. If you’re not a fan of the more generic version, you have me to blame, but it’s going to be a great 25 days anyway!


Related post:  Seasons of Intimacy in Marriage


Here’s how it will work! Listed below will be a “schedule” for the 25 days. Each day will have an activity for you and your spouse to do. Some of these will be kinda steamy, and others will lean more towards working on emotional intimacy. I’ll be posting this at least a week prior to the start of December to give you time to look through it and rearrange any of the dates as you see fit to match your family’s schedule. The idea is not to follow this exactly but to grow closer to your spouse!


Only 1 rule here. Try to have sex at least once a week. Some of you reading this will think I’m a nun for suggesting sex at least once a week with the frequency that you have sex in your household, and that’s fine. But I’m being transparent here in the hope that it will encourage the wife that is struggling to make time for intimacy in between work, the laundry, and the school pick-up line. If you’re having trouble even making once a week happen, you’re not crazy, I’m with you, but let’s change that. We deserve to have this connection with our husbands! God designed this for our good!


Let’s get into the challenge!



  1. Saturday (December 1) – It’s the weekend! Let’s start out with a bang! Make time to have sex with your spouse this weekend.
  2. Sunday – Didn’t have sex yesterday? Make it happen today!
  3. Write a list of 25 things you love about your spouse. Give it to them at the end of the day.
  4. Do something that will make their life easier, today!
  5. It’s time to get physical! After the kids are in bed, cuddle up on the couch, put on a funny show, and fit in a quick make-out sesh. If it leads to further fun, great!
  6. Send a flirty text during the day
  7. Give each other a 10 minute massage
  8. Saturday (December 8) – It’s the weekend! Make time to have sex with your spouse this weekend.
  9. Sunday – Didn’t have sex yesterday? Make it happen today!
  10. Celebrate Monday! Bake some Christmas cookies and kiss while they cook! If you have children that will be making cookies with you and can’t get too steamy, make an effort to be physically affectionate by holding hands, giving small smooches, and hugging 🙂 It’s a great example for our kids to see affectionate parents!
  11. Write 3 notes for your spouse, and leave them in places where they can be found easily!
  12. ** Personalize it! This is a day for YOU to decide what will move your intimacy in the right direction. Think of something that will bless your spouse, and do that thing!
  13. Cook a favorite meal, and eat it together. No tv or distractions!
  14. Watch a Christmas movie or your favorite tv show, and play masseuse. Give each other foot or ear (trust me on this one) rubs while you watch.
  15. Saturday (December 15) – It’s the weekend! Make time to have sex with your spouse this weekend.
  16. Sunday – Didn’t have sex yesterday? Make it happen today!
  17. After the kids go to bed, make some hot chocolate, light a candle or the fireplace, and talk about what you’re loving most about growing closer in intimacy.
  18. Take a look at your wedding photos together and reminisce about the day
  19. Send a flirty picture to your spouse…you know the kind 😉 It can be as revealing or not revealing as you choose. Whatever you’re comfortable with!
  20. ** Personalize it! This is a day for YOU to decide what will move your intimacy in the right direction.
  21. Drive around with the family to look at Christmas lights. Make sure to hold hands and give lots of kisses in front of the kids! Gross them out 😉
  22. Saturday (December 22) – It’s the weekend! Make time to have sex with your spouse this weekend.
  23. Sunday – Didn’t have sex yesterday? Make it happen today!
  24. Write a letter to your spouse for the year to come. You can include things that you are excited to share and experience with them, things you hope to grow closer together in, how you are praying God works in your marriage, etc. This letter is a way to communicate to your spouse how you feel about them, so take your time!
  25. Give your spouse the letter, and just be. Enjoy the day to celebrate the birth of our Savior, and be grateful for the marriage He has blessed you with!



I hope that this Christmas Intimacy Challenge will bring you closer to your spouse this season to bring joy to your household and glory to God! Merry Christmas!


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  • Anna Marie Doyle
    November 24, 2018 at 1:11 pm

    I think this is a great idea and a perfect time of year to put in the extra effort to get closer to our spouses! It’s so easy to get distracted with work, family, and the holidays… I’ll definitely give it my best effort! Thanks for putting this together!

    • Carisa
      December 1, 2018 at 8:48 pm

      I’m so glad that you’re joining us, girlfriend!