A question that I get often usually goes something like this…
“Do you have any tips for helping your husband and loving on him when he is tired…and you’re also tired??“
This is a fantastic question, and it’s one that I have struggled to find the answer to, at times. It can be extremely difficult to be the helper that we are called to be when we are mentally, physically, or emotionally exhausted.
A simple truth that has helped me TREMENDOUSLY is this…me being tired does not negate my husband being tired. We are both allowed to be tired. When my husband is exhausted, it does not take away from the fatigue that I may be feeling, as well. It’s not a competition!
I know that this may seem so silly to point out, but it’s something that I have struggled to keep at the forefront of my mind. When I keep this truth in mind, it makes it much easier to be understanding.
Have you ever found yourself thinking…“How can YOU be tired?? I woke up before you. I’ve done all the laundry and the dishes. I’ve worked harder with the children than you. There is no way you’re as tired as me!”
When these thoughts pop up (and they do often for me), remember that it’s not a competition. In fact, we are on the same team as our husband!
Here’s another truth that I desperately needed to hear. We were created to be a helper. Man was not made for woman. Woman was made for man.
Oof. It’s not always a comfortable truth to be reminded of. My flesh hates it. But it’s the truth, and it’s for our good and God’s glory!
Being a meek presence and a helper to our husbands has eternal value. It is precious to our Lord!
…but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. – 1 Peter 3:4
This post is not a call to perfection. It is not my aim to make you feel bad. I’m right here with you in this struggle! But I do hope that reading this short post will encourage you in some way to help your husband with a joyful heart and show understanding…even when you may be exhausted!